Make the default shift size h of finite_diff and spsa_grad depend on shots

[dwierichs]

Context:
Finite differences use a shift parameter h by which input parameters are shifted. The optimal choice of this parameter (bias-variance tradeoff) is not known a priori, but it is well-known that analytic and shot-based computations have very different optimal settings.
The current default 1e-7 is a poor choice for shot-based evaluation because of the large variance incurred by sampling. For shots=None it is a reasonable setting.

The same holds for spsa_grad, which uses a finite difference recipe under the hood as well.

Description of the Change:
Introduce helper functions to finite_diff and spsa_grad that sets the default value of h to 0.1 when the differentiated tape has shots!=None. If shots=None, the previous default values (1e-7 for finite_diff, 1e-5 for spsa_grad) are maintained, and of course a user-specified h overwrites these default values.

Benefits:
Reasonable results for the gradient transforms when using shots and not specifying h manually.
In particular, when param_shift falls back to finite_diff, no h value can be specified.

Possible Drawbacks:
Defaults are set arbitrary, but so they were before.

Related GitHub Issues:
#904
Regarding this issue: A way more involved relationship between shots and shift size is proposed in the discussion there.
Given that unknown parameters would be needed to implement the equation suggested there, and that it only holds for a particular finite difference recipe (and thus not for other approx_order, n or strategy settings), it seems infeasible to implement such a complex heuristic. This PR is a coarse-grained fix preventing PennyLane from running almost-surely unreasonable circuits by default.
@glassnotes @co9olguy

[sc-4095]

[dwierichs]

Not a change.

[dwierichs]

Failed randomly while testing locally, so I add a seed.

[codecov]

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[dwierichs]

It was decided not to implement this change. Good to close @trbromley @co9olguy ?